The Case of Little Boy Blue

So wtf is wrong with our legal system!? I mean I don't get it sometimes. So here's the sitch: There is a little boy "Little Boy Blue" who's mom, until last month, had custody of. He is 14 right now and she's had custody for his whole life. His father, we'll call him "Sorry Excuse"  has been fighting to get custody since he was around five and he has never won. He was ordered to pay child support, which he's never actually paid. He was in arrears so deep that he was arrested multiple times for not paying child support. well anyway, every summer  little boy blue is ordered, by a judge, to go to NC to visit is father for a month after which he is to be returned to PA where he lives. Let me add the fact that he's never back until about a week or two after the school year begins. Anyway, back and forth back and forth his father takes his mother to court for custody, all the while not paying child support or helping with any expenses whatsoever, this poor little boy is forced to testify at the request of his father. The custody hearings usually end the same. Around two years ago his father begins to be nice to the mother, the court dates aren't as frequent, he's using nicer language and they are able to communicate without it ending in words of war. Then one day Sorry Excuse asks the boy's mother to drop the backed child support so he could get a loan, he promised to give her some money to help one of her older children pay tuition ($2000) she agrees and no surprise, she never gets anything. So now he's out of the hot water because she fell into his trap. So one year ago Little Boy Blue and his mother are at church, he walks to the store around the corner with his cousin and the cousin returns but he doesn't. Cousin said that Sorry Excuse told Little Boy Blue to get in the car and that he would call his mother later. Upon hearing this, the boy's mother begins franticly calling his cell phone and his father's.. Both continuously go to voicemail without  ringing. This is the last time she sees her baby boy. Sorry Excuse finally calls around midnight, "Im keeping him" is what he said. She goes to the courthouse, lets the people there know what happened and files for a hearing. They give her a date that is FIVE months away!  meanwhile, she hasn't spoken to or seen her Little Boy Blue. Then she gets a letter in the mail summoning her to court, Sorry Excuse has somehow gotten an expedited hearing for custody, he wins temporary custody until her court date. As soon as she gets home theres a new letter in the mail summoning her again, this time she is being sued for child support. The hearing is in one month. well she just left that hearing in which Sorry Excuse was conferenced in on the phone, she is ordered to pay him the same amount that she is paying her mortgage company each month. He claims not to have a job (yet he has custody). How can all this happen while she is still waiting for her court hearing? what can she do about this? how will she pay her bills?

Comments please
~Arnesia Newsome

A Beautiful Moment

Hello readers! Hope all is well with you today. Me? Oh my day was going so so until a few minutes ago, but I just had a visit from someone that changed it to very good. So here's the sitch: My very first boyfriend, whom I haven't seen in about six years, just left my house. Now I wasn't sure if I really wanted to see him because he was responsible for my very first heartbreak. But the visit turned out to be very delightful and I am so happy that he asked to come by. Back in high school we dated for about a year and of course I was madly in love with him(he was my first) but we ended up breaking up and he was really kind of a jerk towards me. I'd rather not revisit those moments but fast forward a few years, he got married, went into the army, lived in Hawaii and now he's back here in Philly. I got a friend request from him on Facebook a few weeks ago, I accepted and he wrote me a message that went kinda like this "Nelle (my nickname) I know that this may be a little too late and you probably don't really care but I just wanted to apologize to you for any harm that I have caused you in the past. I never wanted to hurt you. Im so sorry." I told him it was ok and that the past was in the past and his apology is accepted. And from there we were messaging back and forth asking how we were, talking about our families and our current life situations. We exchanged numbers and then he asked if he could come by, all he wanted to do was give me a big hug. And at first it didn't work out, we had conflicting schedules but he made it out today. And Im very happy he did. We spoke about his current situation, his past, his plans, my plans, and he kept apologizing and telling me that I didn't deserve the treatment I got. He thanked me for having a forgiving heart and we embraced. And it was a very beautiful moment. Perhaps we can be friends now *smile*

Comments, as usual, are welcomed.
~Arnesia Newsome

just go away

So lately Ive been having this feeling that wont go away.. and every single day it gets a little bit stronger. Its a feeling that I almost cant explain.. or maybe I can, but I just don't understand it i guess. Anyway, I want a companion.. like you know, someone to chill with, laugh with, go out and have a good time.. but I want sparks with it, I wanna feel like "maybe this will lead to something more, maybe I can stop dating around now.. maybe, this is it".... but lately, no one that I wanna feel this way about seems to wanna feel the same about me, why is that?....I feel like, maybe, Im looking in the wrong places, at the wrong people or maybe it just wont happen, whatever it is I don't like it and i wish this feeling would just go away. Whats happening to me?... ugh... mushy stuff(feelings) sucks... anyway it's now 1am and i have to work soon so I guess I'll attempt to sleep now.... Comments anyone?

A New Day in A New Year

hello there! I realize that I am a day late but Happy New Year! Hope you all made it through last year safely and are planning on making the most of this one. So I told you that you'd be updated on a few things #1 I went ice skating for the first time and well, I survived! I even ended up learning how to go backwards (check me out). At first I was not into it at all but after a run around the rink I got my groove in it. Its a great time for family and friends alike. Try it out someday. #2 I spoke to my brother about his friend. I asked him how he felt about it and what advice he had (if any). He told me that it isn't really that big of a deal to him(which I already knew) and that he thinks that we would be a good fit. He said that of all his friends, he definitely cosigns this one the most and I cant help but agree with him but guess what? Mr. "Hard To Convince" isn't convinced at all. He says that its too weird for him and that he sees me still as his boys little sister :( Bummer right? And While I wish that he didn't feel that way there is nothing I can do about it. So all I can do is forget about it (which sucks because I was really looking forward to getting to know him). Anyway, today is a new day in a brand new year and I cant wait to see what its gonna bring next. comments anyone?

Ta Ta For Now,
Arnesia Newsome