Good morning to you all and Happy New Year's Eve! What are your plans for today? Me, well I am going ice skating for the very first time. It should be quite exciting. I'll let you know how it went when I return (hopefully no bad falls) but for now I want to get your opinion on something. Ok so you have a party one day and at that party you see someone that you really want to go and talk to. Now, you're familiar with this person because you've seen them a few times a year for maybe the past 10 years. But the last few time that this person has been in the same edifice as you, you've noticed that you pay more and more attention to them. You've become increasingly attracted to them. So at this party (encouraged by a few drinks) you decide "Im gonna go over there and give it a shot"(get it? shot at a party lol). You do and you two hit it off, exchange numbers and are keeping in regular contact. And through this contact you discover that it is not just the fact that this person is the perfect height with the perfect smile and its not just the fact that they have an education, but their personality is awesome and they make you laugh. You just really, honestly like him/her... Ok so now you're thinking "where is this going?"... Now, here's what I left out: This person is a very close friend to your older brother/sister. You both are feeling each other but he ("This Person") is a bit apprehensive about dating his friend's little sister (me). So you feel like you're doing all the chasing but the person isn't completely biting the bait. He shows interest(the first phone call lasted about four hours) and says that we're on the same page but also that this is a delicate situation and he isn't convinced that he should go for it. I agree with the fact that it is delicate however, I think that there is absolutely nothing wrong with trying it out. And I so want to see him, like actually spend time alone on a date, watch movies or even just have a cup tea (btw Im drinking vanilla carmel again). How can I get Mr. Hard to Convince to give this a try without feeling wrong about it?
Of course Comments are welcome.
Ttyl,
Arnesia Newsome
talk with your older brother/sister about the situation. let them know how respectful their friend has been about their feelings, and then let them know how you both feel. maybe then, your sibling will show you similar respect for your feelings and might feel a bit more comfortable with the situation. if your sibling is comfortable to some level with the relationship, then there seems to be little reason why your romantic interest would feel apprehensive about moving forward.
ReplyDeleteI think that I agree with Jordan K. After all, it may not be such a bad idea for you to date this person. Especially since this guy is a friend of your brother, whom keeps pretty good company I hope. Plus... you're a grown woman... so do "YOU" boo!
ReplyDeleteI agree with Jordan K. If the reason this guy is being reluctant is his respect for your big bro, then you need to talk to your bro and let him know that you are interested in his friend, and then maybe your bro could talk to his friend and say something like " hey if you want to date my lil sis, i'm cool with it" or maybe your bro will give you another perspective on this guy and let you know if he knows something unpleasant about this guy, and save you the heartbreak.
ReplyDeleteI wish you the best and Happy new year
Thank you all for the advice and Happy New Year to you. I'll let you know what happens
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