Mr. Hard to Convince

Good morning to you all and Happy New Year's Eve! What are your plans for today? Me, well I am going ice skating for the very first time. It should be quite exciting. I'll let you know how it went when I return (hopefully no bad falls) but for now I want to get your opinion on something. Ok so you have a party one day and at that party you see someone that you really want to go and talk to. Now, you're familiar with this person because you've seen them a few times a year for maybe the past 10 years. But the last few time that this person has been in the same edifice as you, you've noticed that you pay more and more attention to them. You've become increasingly attracted to them. So at this party (encouraged by a few drinks) you decide "Im gonna go over there and give it a shot"(get it? shot at a party lol). You do and you two hit it off, exchange numbers and are keeping in regular contact. And through this contact you discover that it is not just the fact that this person is the perfect height with the perfect smile and its not just the fact that they have an education, but their personality is awesome and they make you laugh. You just really, honestly like him/her... Ok so now you're thinking "where is this going?"... Now, here's what I left out: This person is a very close friend to your older brother/sister. You both are feeling each other but he ("This Person") is a bit apprehensive about dating his friend's little sister (me). So you feel like you're doing all the chasing but the person isn't completely biting the bait. He shows interest(the first phone call lasted about four hours) and says that we're on the same page but also that this is a delicate situation and he isn't convinced that he should go for it. I agree with the fact that it is delicate however, I think that there is absolutely nothing wrong with trying it out. And I so want to see him, like actually spend time alone on a date, watch movies or even just have a cup tea (btw Im drinking vanilla carmel again). How can I get Mr. Hard to Convince to give this a try without feeling wrong about it?

Of course Comments are welcome.

Ttyl,
Arnesia Newsome

Dating Without Sparks

So its my first official Tea Talk night time blog. Its 12:22am and I cannot sleep, despite the fact that I have attempted to induce my body into sleep-mode by taking (natural) supplements. Melatonin to be exact, sometimes it works wonderfully and sometimes, well Im still awake :-/  Anyway I was talking to someone who is in a relationship that this person is no longer interested in. Its a fairly new relationship but in fear of hurting the second party's feelings, party number one has been hesitant about ending it. Our conversation got me thinking about myself and how I would handle the situation and as a matter of fact, I am kind of facing the same predicament. No, I am not in an actual relationship with anyone however, I have been seeing someone, dating, chatting, having fun but I can see that the guy is way more interested in me than I him. Once I noticed this, I began to distance myself from him in an effort to "ween" him from me in what I think is a subtle manner. Not working. I find that no matter how much I don't call or how unavailable I have become he is still very much interested. So what I want to know is how YOU would handle? Consider this : A perfectly respectful, sweet, generous, thoughtful, funny and not bad looking person asks you out on a date. You say yes and you guys have a wonderfully fun first date. So when your lovely friend asks you on date number two you have absolutely no reason to decline. Its another great time, but you notice that this person wanted to do things like hold your hand, maybe be a little more flirtatious (nothing wrong with that right?). What if you don't want the him/her to hold your hand, or to touch you in any way other than maybe a goodnight hug? The date is lacking the sparks to you but he/she seems to be feeling them from the door. Ok so now it gets tricky, you're trying to see if  maybe for some reason you just weren't feeling your date that day (although it went well) so when asked out on date number three you say sure! why not? But this time your date comes in for a kiss and thats when you realize that in no way shape or form do you ever want this person to even attempt to kiss you ever again! Now remember, this person is awesome, great, almost perfect, so why is there such a problem?  Now you're thinking "what the hell is wrong with me? Why don't I like him/her?" You want to be this person's friend now, no more dates but he/she totally thinks that you're into him/her (even though you kindly rejected the kiss attempt). Add this into the equation, you've been in the same position where you were totally into someone more than they were into, you know how it feels when that person doesn't wanna give you the time of day(it sucks) so are you completely in the wrong if you just keep your mouth shut about it and entertain the person with a few measly dates here and there? I mean, you both have fun (until it comes to the incredibly awkward part of rejecting the intimacy attempts) and you don't want to make anyone feel the way you've felt in the past (rejection hurts).  what do you do?  How do you not hurt their feelings? What do you say to them? "Im sorry but I just don't like you like that"? "please stop calling me everyday"? " Don't text me everyday either"? those things just don't seem like they'll do so tell me, how do you manage?

Comments are welcomed.

Thanks for coming back

~Arnesia Newsome

What's in a name (Tea Talk introduction)

Hello readers, as you can see, the title of my blog is "Tea Talk" and no, it was not just randomly chosen as a title. I actually put a little bit of thought into it, I tried to choose something that would best describe the material that my blog would cover. However, since I will be posting random blogs about topics that aren't specially chosen or thought out ahead of time that are about pretty much whatever is on my mind at any given moment of any given day, I chose "Tea Talk". Usually in my house when we (meaning my family, friends, random stoppers by) are all together we fill up the teapot and pull out the mugs,sit around the kitchen table or in the dining room or wherever, but usually the kitchen table, and discuss the happenings of the day, week, month, whatever. Our tea time can start at anytime of day and can last for hours, but it does always come to an end. I often cannot sleep at night and have things bouncing around this crazy mind of mine and need an outlet. So I figured why not have a tea time of my very own?  I'll have a fresh cup of tea each time I blog. This time its Vanilla Carmel by Bigelow with french vanilla creamer. There's my introduction. Welcome to my blog.

 Thanks for stopping by & come back tomorrow.

~ Arnesia Newsome